This episode is a two-for-one, and that’s because the podcast recently hit its 10-year anniversary and passed one billion downloads. To celebrate, I’ve curated some of the best of the best—some of my favorites—from more than 700 episodes over the last decade. I could not be more excited. The episode features segments from episode #444 “Hugh Jackman on Best Decisions, Daily Routines, The 85% Rule, Favorite Exercises, Mind Training, and Much More” and #241 “The Relationship Episode: Sex, Love, Polyamory, Marriage, and More (with Esther Perel).”
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SHOW NOTES
- [05:46] Notes about this supercombo format.
- [06:49] Enter Hugh Jackman.
- [07:22] What books has Hugh gifted most?
- [10:35] Hugh’s meditation practices.
- [14:07] Summoning and maintaining the emotional and physical energy necessary for performing.
- [19:59] What lessons did Hugh’s father teach him about being an example to others?
- [25:32] The contract Hugh made with himself at the end of drama school.
- [29:13] Best decisions Hugh made in the first years of being an aspiring/working actor.
- [34:23] How has Hugh learned to trust his intuition?
- [37:07] The design of the day and the efficacy of manifestation.
- [39:38] The most efficient exercises Hugh knows.
- [40:53] The importance of incorporating relaxation into physical activity (the 85% rule).
- [44:17] Enter Esther Perel.
- [44:41] Esther’s background.
- [46:11] Growing up among Holocaust survivors in Antwerp.
- [53:45] Her parents’ survival: chance vs. choice.
- [1:02:27] Trust or vulnerability: which comes first?
- [1:04:24] Impermanence as motivation for living fully.
- [1:06:24] Esther on being counterphobic.
- [1:09:35] Studying in Jerusalem.
- [1:14:02] Seeking and approaching mentors.
- [1:22:39] Eroticism as an antidote to death.
- [1:26:04] Options for couples with sexual listlessness.
- [1:33:04] Too much honesty in relationships? American vs. European views.
- [1:39:07] Complete sharing vs. caring in relationships.
- [1:40:16] Guiding patients through infidelity disclosure.
- [1:45:29] Overcoming fear of abandonment in non-exclusive relationships.
- [1:52:23] Quarterly relationship report cards.
- [1:53:54] “Don’t ask, don’t tell” in polyamorous relationships.
- [1:55:46] Innovation and flexibility over rigid ideology in relationships.
- [1:58:43] Relationships as power dynamics.
- [2:02:20] The research process for Esther’s book on adultery.
- [2:08:36] Arguments for marriage today.
- [2:13:47] Divorce rates in second marriages.
- [2:15:13] Marriage’s effect on relationship behavior.
- [2:17:54] Human questions explored through infidelity in Esther’s book.
- [2:21:48] Books Esther frequently gifts and rereads.
- [2:22:42] Esther’s billboard.
- [2:23:15] Parting thoughts.
SELECTED LINKS FROM THE EPISODE
Connect with Hugh Jackman:
Twitter | Instagram | Facebook
- Deadpool & Wolverine | Marvel
- ‘Music Man’ With Hugh Jackman Extends Broadway Run | Variety
- Les Misérables | Prime Video
- End Child Hunger in America | No Kid Hungry
- We All Have a Strength to Share | Share Our Strength
- Here is New York by E.B. White | Amazon
- This Is Water: Some Thoughts, Delivered on a Significant Occasion, about Living a Compassionate Life by David Foster Wallace | Amazon
- This is Water by David Foster Wallace (Full Transcript and Audio) | Farnam Street
- The Overstory: A Novel by Richard Powers | Amazon
- A Personalized Journey to Inner Peace, Clarity, and Wellness | Transcendental Meditation
- How to Cage the Monkey Mind | The Tim Ferriss Show #175
- Chariots Of Fire | Prime Video
- Mantra: Om Paramatmane Namah with Anuradha Choudry | YogaAnytime
- Hugh Jackman on Marriage and Family | Good Housekeeping
- What is the Origin of the Christian Fish Symbol? | Christianity Today
- Western Australian Academy of Performing Arts (WAAPA)
- Neighbours | Prime Video
- Royal Shakespeare Company | RSC
- Foundation for National Parks & Wildlife (FNPW)
- Obituary: Toby Schmitz Remembers the Rock Surfers Theatre Co. | The Beast
- Stoicism Resources and Recommendations | Tim Ferriss
- X-Men Film Series In Order | IMDb
- Hugh Jackman in Disney’s Beauty and the Beast as Gaston | Repeat Attenders
- Hugh Jackman in Sunset Boulevard | Repeat Attenders
- Oklahoma! | Prime Video
- Hugh Jackman in The Boy From Oz | Broadway JLM
- Rowing Machine Model D | Concept2
- The 4-Hour Body: An Uncommon Guide to Rapid Fat Loss, Incredible Sex, and Becoming Superhuman by Timothy Ferriss | Amazon
- How the 85% Rule Can Help You Succeed at Work | Fast Company
- Australia | Prime Video
Connect with Esther Perel:
Website | Twitter | Instagram | Facebook | YouTube
- Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther Perel | Amazon
- The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel | Amazon
- Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel | Audible
- The Jewish Community of Antwerp, Belgium | Museum of the Jewish People
- If This Is a Man and The Truce by Primo Levi | Amazon
- Auschwitz-Birkenau Memorial and State Museum
- Rachel Botsman: We’ve Stopped Trusting Institutions and Started Trusting Strangers | TEDSummit
- BJ Miller — The Man Who Studied 1,000 Deaths to Learn How to Live | The Tim Ferriss Show #153
- Chutzpah — The Yiddish Word That Means Audacity | My Jewish Learning
- Esther Perel on the Difference Between Sexuality and Eroticism | Big Think
- History of Monogamy: The Shift from Duty to Pleasure | Esther Perel
- More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory by Franklin Veaux and Janet Hardy | Amazon
- Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino | Amazon
- Understanding Polyamory: What’s Compersion? | HelloFlo
- I Think You’re Fat by A.J. Jacobs | Esquire
- Esther Perel: Rethinking Infidelity … A Talk for Anyone Who Has Ever Loved | TED2015
- From Theater to Therapy to Twitter, the Eerie History of Gaslighting | Slate
- Monica Lewinsky on the Culture of Humiliation | Vanity Fair
- Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor E. Frankl | Amazon
- The Art of Loving by Erich Fromm | Amazon
- The Erotic Mind: Unlocking the Inner Sources of Passion and Fulfillment by Jack Morin | Amazon
- Madame Bovary by Gustave Flaubert | Amazon
- Crime and Punishment by Fyodor Dostoyevsky | Amazon
PEOPLE MENTIONED
- Billy Shore
- E.B. White
- David Foster Wallace
- Gary Hart
- Eric Liddell
- Lisle Jones
- David Attenborough
- Christopher Jackman
- Grace McNeil
- Billy Graham
- Brené Brown
- Queen Elizabeth II
- Kylie Minogue
- Guy Pearce
- Margot Robbie
- Ian Jackman
- Ralph Jackman
- Ryan Holiday
- Gaston
- Sir Trevor Nunn
- Jesus
- Joseph Campbell
- Beth Lewis
- Peter Attia
- Primo Levi
- David Blaine
- Sala Ferlegier
- Icek Perel
- Jack Saul
- Rachel Botsman
- BJ Miller
- Salvador Minuchin
- Ed Zschau
- Richard Feynman
- A.J. Jacobs
- Oscar Wilde
- Bill Clinton
- Monica Lewinsky
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