For the second time in less than two months, Latter-day Saint women have taken to social media to push back against an address delivered by a top female church leader.
Speaking on Friday at Brigham Young University’s Women’s Conference, President Camille Johnson, leader of the global Relief Society of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, encouraged women to rely on the words of President Russell M. Nelson and emphasized the need for women to prioritize motherhood.
“My primary orientation — that is, my focus, passion and calling as a woman — is toward motherhood,” Johnson, a former corporate lawyer, said. “That is our primary orientation, our sacred calling, as daughters of Heavenly Parents.”
The Salt Lake Tribune submitted questions to a church spokesperson for the 60-year-old Johnson, including how she and her husband managed child care while they both worked and her advice for Latter-day Saint women interested in pursuing a career but who feel guilty for doing so. No responses were provided.
“I had babies, and my husband and I loved and nurtured them while we were both working,” Johnson told her worldwide audience Friday. “It was busy, sometimes hectic. We were stretched and sometimes tired. I supported him, and he supported me. Family was and still is our top priority.”
Senior apostle Dallin Oaks, Nelson’s top counselor in the governing First Presidency and next in line to lead the 17.2 million-member faith, spoke on similar themes in a 2023 devotional. The 91-year-old father of six warned young single adults against delaying marriage and childbearing, even for financial reasons.
He was among the first to comment on the church’s Instagram post quoting Johnson’s talk, calling the Relief Society president a “wonderful role model.”
Some commenters, however, worried the call to prioritize motherhood could leave women particularly vulnerable to financial insecurity.
“Approaching 40, I have seen enough faithful LDS women abandoned by their husbands and left to care for their children — all with weak educational degrees, starting from scratch and barely scraping by,” wrote @anniemangelson. “Too many women and children end up in absolute crisis having simply ‘followed the prophet.’ We have to quit teaching like this and setting some women up for failure.”
And, as many commenters pointed out, Johnson’s own decision to pursue a career conflicted with previous prophetic counsel discouraging women from work that took them away from their husbands and children.
“I’m grateful for this message and example,” said user @jsmileybug. “However, I’m 25 and this is the very first time I’ve EVER heard a church leader suggest it’s acceptable for [mothers] to work outside the home.”
What Kimball and Benson said
Some of the more than 2,000 comments pointed to the words of former President Spencer W. Kimball, spoken in 1977 and shared a decade later during a Brigham Young University fireside by then-President Ezra Taft Benson, as the kind of clear direction Johnson would have heard — and not heeded.
“No career approaches in importance that of wife, homemaker, mother — cooking meals, washing dishes, making beds for one’s precious husband and children,” Benson quoted Kimball as saying. “Come home, wives, to your husbands. Make home a heaven for them. Come home, wives, to your children, born and unborn.
Several Instagram commenters cited rhetoric like this as their own reason for forfeiting careers and instead having children sooner than they otherwise would have — decisions some said they now regretted. To have Johnson, who chose otherwise, now lauded as a role model, they said, was painful to watch.
One user, @oils4us, wrote that she was in the audience when Benson delivered his dramatic address. Taking the message to heart, she said, she proceeded to give birth to three children in three years.
“I used to get the BYU alumni magazine and every time I’d cry and feel sad because where was my paragraph?” she wrote. “Where were my accolades for having done what” Benson instructed?
Seeing Johnson praised now, she said, brought back that same ache.
“The women,” she said, “who went against the prophet’s very direct counsel get their paragraphs and fulfillment of becoming something else and a mom.”
Neither was the impact of such rhetoric constrained to a single generation.
“I’m sobbing reading this,” commented the 35-year-old Linda Hamilton, who, in an interview with The Tribune, said she gave up her dream of becoming a writer to devote herself to her family.
These days, she mourns “for younger me. She gave up all her dreams and ambitions because she truly thought God would only accept her if she obeyed the prophets exactly.”
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